Diane,
I had a similar experience and was instructed to go straight to the legal dept. at AOL.
You can easily file a DMCA complaint with any search engine that is listing the copy of your site, and it will be removed shortly. Google's policy is to post a copy of every complaint they receive at ChillingEffects.org. The others don't do that.
AlltheWeb DMCA:
http://www.alltheweb.com/info/about/dmcapolicy.html
Covers AlltheWeb and Lycos
AltaVista:
http://www.altavista.com/web/legal/copyright
AOL:
http://www.aol.com/copyright/infringement.html
Covers DMOZ
AskJeeves:
http://www.askjeevesinc.com/docs/ajinc/legal/legal.html
Covers AskJeeves and Teoma
Google:
http://www.google.com/dmca.html
Getting a copy out of Google basically eliminates it from the web since Google feeds Yahoo!, AOL, Netscape, Alexa, iWon.com, Earthlink (when you select "The Web" as a search option), and Compuserve.
LookSmart Directory and Search Results:
http://aboutus.looksmart.com/corp.jhtml?page=terms
MSN Search Engine:
http://www.microsoft.com/info/cpyrtInfrg.htm
Yahoo Directory:
http://docs.yahoo.com/info/copyright/copyright.html
Good luck.
C. J. Newton