OK, officer, up against the wall and assume the position! (Sorry, I've always want to say that).
The ODP is a volunteer organization where editors are free to contribute whenever they want and (withing bounds) wherever they want. There is much, much more work to do than the editors could possibly do -- even if they were working full time.
Before I turned in my editor cap, there were about a million plus sites awaiting review -- and reviweing sites is not the major focus of most editors.
Editors are strange creatures. Their fascination is with building the directory, developing categories and structure, and independently finding sites to list. I'm inolved with a similar activity, in a similar capacity, and a much, much smaller editing team there added more than 16,000 sites last month -- and there is no submission pool.
As a person suggesting a site, you have done your part. If you are also the site owner/webmaster your best bet now is to go off and find other ways to promote your site. Do the necessary SEO, build content, find other directories and search engines. An ODP link is nice, but not critical -- and I say this with firsthand knowledge because one of my sites is consistently ranked in the top three for the best keywords, and it is definitely not part of ODP.
Good luck with your site - focus on the things that are important, and don't let and ODP fixation distract you from what you really need to be doing.