>>All the flash scripts are secure though, otherwise my hosting company would not allow it....
Ah. And if you had been concealing e-mail-spammer engines in your flash scripts, you would have told us about it, right?
I don't mean to be sarcastic: but "I am not a lying crook" is not a auto-validating statement. And we'd have a hard time getting that promise from each of the zillions of hosts out there -- so we can take no notice of it. Even if there is a possibility that it's true, we can't verify it.
The security issue is this: on the Infernal Exploder (AKA the Internet Infector), Flash is an ActiveX plugin. In itself, it may not totally destroy the security of your system -- I really don't know, and it really doesn't matter. The problem is, ActiveX DOES totally destroy the security of your system. Any ActiveX component can hose your registry and your registration, reformat your hard disk, and leave you with no data and no usable computer. And in order to use Flash, you must allow ActiveX components to run.
It is as if you called a plumber to come fix your faucet, and he said "I won't come into your house unless you permanently disable every lock on every door or container, and destroy every barrier on every window. And in addition you must place all your money, jewelry, and negotiable securities in the top dresser in the master bedroom, and leave them there until they are stolen." Would you accept? Or would you spurn that arrogant jerk like the abetter-of-criminals he is?
It is completely beyond my comprehension why ANYONE would EVER treat their computer like that. (It is therefore also beyond my comprehension why anyone would ever create a Flash website knowing that they inevitably require that people open up their computers like nobody would ever open their home.)
Flash is, IMO, a valuable technology in some ways; and I think it is highly regrettable that Microsoft has chosen to impose these unconscionable and intolerable demands on surfers through their insistance on ActiveX plugin technology.