irisfirm, let me give you another perspective on your plight.
It's not our fault, of course. It is yours.
Why? How?
You, um, entered a "very competitive industry."
Now, if you were the ONLY supplier of birefractive chiral widgets, you'd be obviously unique, very unique, USERS couldn't get their supply of BRCWs without you, and it would be a matter of extreme urgency for us to review and list your site, for the sake of our users.
But YOU CHOSE not to do that. YOU CHOSE to compete an industry where your entrance would not be noticed, nor your exit mourned. And therefore you gave up any opportunities you might have had for a quick demonstration of palpable uniqueness and essential sine-qua-nonity.
And WE choose to focus on sites that are (1) interesting to us, and (2) unique. That means your site is way off in the blurry area at the periphery of our lens. Knowing that, you can figure on a long delay.
This is not to say your site doesn't have a modicum of uniqueness -- it may. It may even have enough uniqueness to list. But there is no way on land or sea that it has enough uniqueness to go to the head of the line over, say, the neat site I noticed yesterday THAT HAS NEVER BEEN SUBMITTED AT ALL, but which contains stuff that intrigues me and is available nowhere else on the net.
Our priorities are well-known and widely publicized. They are individual and varied. They aren't subject to debate -- I couldn't tell spectregunner what to focus on, even if he were out of ammo. And he can't tell me.
But I've posted, a number of times, suggestions as to simple ways to create a palpably-unique subsite as a loss leader. I couldn't begin to imagine all the ways in which a truly creative person (which I am not) could make unique contributions to the arts, sciences, humanities, or commerce. You're welcome to take that advice, or not.
Finally, whose problem is this that you mention?
Is it the users'? No, they can find what they want at your many competitors.
Is it ours? How could it be? If any editor feels any site in his area has been waiting too long for review, then he'll review it -- and end of problem.
Is it our customers'? Our customers are the users, so it can't be them.
Is it yours? Clearly you feel so, and on that issue your word is final. And you (as the webmaster or business owner) have your assets and your energy, and you have the choice of using them to promote your website or ... something else. But you do not have the right to impose your choice on someone else. And if you are here to do that, you are correct: there is truly no win possible -- it is a lose-lose proposition.