I would like to get a quick answer to a simple question when do you think my web site would get listed
We don't have that information - your guess is as good as ours. Literally.
at what point I should resubmit to a different category where I have a greater chance of inclusion within let say a month.
That's a much easier question! The answer is never. Please don't ever suggest your site to any other than the most suitable category. If you do, your site suggestion will be moved to the more suitable category, it won't be listed in the less well-fitting category. More waiting for you, more work for the editors, lose-lose situation.
Also remember that we are talking about
time until review - if the reviewing editor decides to include the site, it is also the time until inclusion, but there is no guarantee for that. We promise to review sites, not to list them.
I would also like to know who is the editor for the category I selected and also if I could contact him directly.
Several hundred people can edit in that category. You are free to contact any editor directly but be aware that editors are encouraged not to respond to submitters by private email.
I’m really sorry if I insulted anyone but I really want to complete my research and finish my paper.
Nope, we're not insulted, and believe me I can relate to wanting to finish your paper! But please don't base that on the inclusion of your site in the ODP - we're not joking or trying to scare you or put you off when we say that it
can take five years until review. It's the truth, and the proof is that we sometimes review sites that were suggested in 2000. (Very rarely - it's much more common to review ones suggested in 2005 - but still.)