>I already used the update button on dmoz.org but it seem that the editor is not there,
Big misunderstanding here. Editors work when they have free time. A suggestion will wait until someone wants to review it. How long will that be? It may be a few seconds, or may be four years.
>also I sent my application to become an editor on dmoz.org because I understand categorize work very will but I was refuse because I suggest only one site.
>I will try to submit my application again with two website to make some work done on dmoz.org
The point of being an editor is to find and review LOTS of sites. The editor application is a chance to show the kind of thing you WANT to do. If you're accepted, we expect you to do more of the same. So ... why not go ahead and find THREE websites?
>I was thinking that dmoz.org and its forums are very welcoming place but I think I am wrong, because all what I see is a negative action on me.
>This thread looks like workless for me in a situation that I need action.
Yes, even the most gracious host may get a bit miffed when you try to smuggle a dead skunk into her wine-tasting party. If you read the "forum policies" carefully, you'll see what you did that you were told not to do -- and there's no way to wear out a welcome faster than riding rough-shod over community policies.
If you want to build up a topic on the web, then helping edit an ODP category is one good way of doing it. Building a good website is another good way. Some people do both.
Another very effective way of getting a LOT of hostility from the ODP community is trying to use the ODP to build up a website, and obsessing about an ODP listing even before the content is built for it! When you do that, you sound like a spammer, plotting to manipulate ODP editors for your own ulterior motives.
What's the solution?
(1) Create and collect unique content for your website. Submit it to the ODP, and then forget about it.
(2) Collect links to sites that contain other unique content. Post them on your website (in a links page). If you want to promote those OTHER sites (NOT your own site) further, then good! the ODP and your chosen topic may benefit from your help.
You see the difference? DON'T think of what YOUR SITE needs and the ODP in the same thought session. Instead, go first to see what the web has already on the subject -- review and list sites. Now, you are an expert on what the web DOESN'T have: THAT'S what you can add to YOUR site to promote the topic.
And if you do that, the ODP listing will come. I don't know when it will come -- obviously the site must be reviewed by someone who knows Arabic, and THIS forum tends to focus on English speakers. But I do know: ODP editors are grateful for the unique content, and excited when we find a good collection of unique content on our favorite subject.