Lets' translate and explain
Yes the site was submitted at various times and to no avail.
But you submitted several times to several different categories - the instructions on suggesting a site told you not to do that.
to no avail. - not really from our point of view , editors spent time getting rid of your duplicate submissions e.g.
mole-whacking - probably yes from your point of view, because the multiple submissions if they had any effect was to delay your review.
While I do understand that listing is subject to the decision of an editor,
Yes it is, but the editor has to review the sites first, other than mole-whacking your extras, no editor has actually reviewed your site.
I also have grown surprised and frankly skeptical as to the fairness of the process
Fairness on what process? - the process is that we let you suggest a site - that's all we do, is that not fair? We don't promise to look at your suggestion within any time frame, we actually tell you that we may not list submitted sites.
Should this site and the service that we offer been borderline from whatever perspective one may want to look at it, I would be the first one to move on. However, in view of the other sites listed in our categories and the quality if site and service, I cannot stop wondering what are the criteria for selecting or not selecting site.
Meaningless, since no editor has actually reviewed your site. If and when you get rejected, than you could ponder on the criteria, until that time, there are more productive things you can do to publicize your site in other avenues. If you have vague doubts that your site is borderline, then spend time fixing it before an editor reviews it.
Finally, I do not know what you mean by "perhaps someone else will volunteer to load..." and wonder, with all due respect, how I should take this?
It means there are a lot of sites to go through to find your site, whichever editor does it needs a high speed internet connection. You might iinfer that there are a lot of other sites in the category waiting for an editor to look at them.
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