Anvilpoint, when the publicly stated rules of a forum expressly forbids particular questions, then it is obvious that there is no way to ask those questions POLITELY in that forum -- any possible form of such a question is overbearing and rude: if a person CLAIMS to be polite while asking such a question, they've also added hypocritical and deceitful to the package.
You're welcome to ask anyone, politely, anything that they haven't told you is an unwelcome question.
But what you think is "not unreasonable to ask", _I_ think is "unreasonable to expect me to answer."
Do your own research on your own website for your own benefit. You KNOW most of the facts already. You KNOW how unique your website is, you KNOW whether its beneficiary business(es) have other websites representing them, you KNOW how many other websites you've created purporting to give the benefit of your knowledge. (We don't know any of that without extensive research -- webmasters are trying to keep those important facts secret. And those are questions on which ANY surfer has has a right to expect answers, too!)
On the other hand, the ODP policies are public, and the guidelines are pretty simple -- the fact is, most of editors' errors are caused by being tricked by deceitful webmasters, not confused by the guidelines.
And that last fact indicates, as strongly as facts and logic can, why it is absolutely intolerable and unreasonable for a member of that so-so-deceitful class to think he has the right to demand ANY information from the people whom that class is dedicated to deceiving!
Sorry -- you may have been that rare bird, an honest professional freelance webmaster, but you put yourself in that class, you wrapped yourself in the rights of that class, and now you'll have to figure out how to get the stink off.
We won't lie to you or your ilk. That's part of what this forum is moderated for. If editors make inadvertent mis-statements, we'll correct them, and usually even explain how it happened. We're human, not perfect. The reason so many questions get multiple answers here is that the participating editors have a passion for complete, accurate, nuanced information -- and we'll keep going till we're sure it's been given.
When your ilk stop investing so much effort in deceiving us, the lines of communication will be a LOT more open. And I have no trouble, no trouble at all, knowing where to assign ALL of that blame. And you may not be part of THAT problem, but you're part of the mob that is all of the problem. Your chanting the same chant, and ranting the same rant, and throwing tar at the same targets, as the rest of the mob. And that is fatal to any claims of sympathy you might claim as part of the mob.