Trying again, in smaller words.
There are two kinds of questions: "theoretical curiosity" and "practical" ones.
I'm not opposed to curiosity ("addicted" is more like it), but it's best not to involve particular sites in that kind of question.
So I assume your question is "practical" -- that is, the answer you get will have some effect on what you decide to do next. (If there is no practical effect of an answer, then it's just prurient curiosity -- and no point in volunteers wasting their time on it.)
Well, then, the practical advice I can give you is this: there IS no HONEST practical value to that kind of question.
If your site is listed in the ODP -- the only person who has any responsibility for building it and promoting it is you. And the responsibility is only to yourself. And only you know what that responsibility is.
If your site is not listed in the ODP -- the only person who has any responsibility for building it and promoting it is you. And the responsibility is only to yourself.
On the day when a listing is added to the ODP, nothing changed in your responsibility.
On the day when a listing was removed from the ODP, nothing changed in your responsibility.
On the day when the site was reviewed by an editor but no action was taken -- nothing changed in your responsibility.
So -- you already know what to do. What you need to do if the site has not yet been rejected, and what you need to do if the site has been rejected forever, is exactly the same.
So: assume the site has been rejected forever. And go do what you know you need to do.
Suppose you don't take my advice. You sit around for two years, waiting until you hear from us that the site is of no interest to surfers.
You can close it down then, or you can start promoting it yourself, after having wasted two years.
Why wait? Start now.