Anvil,
The tone of responses rather echoed the emotions felt when being told what an person's "moral duties" need to be and to "get their act together".
As someone said recently: "politeness costs nothing".
Do you have any evidence that your application to edit was "ignored"? I have heard about applications not being received, and applications being rejected, and applications that are still waiting to be reviewed, but never of one that was ignored. I suggest to ask over in the Application Status forum, if you are interested.
You made the comment about how a listing in the ODP "may mean the difference between an internet company being successful or failing" and then you say that "it is not about failing or succeeding". I'm sorry, but I am confused. What point are you trying to make with these statements? If it's that you are not happy that your site has not been reviewed yet, then I can certainly understand your point of view. I was in a similar situation before I became an editor. But the nature of the beast that is the ODP is that it can take a LONG time to get a site reviewed (and that can mean several years). There are many discussions elsewhere about why this is, and whether it is a good thing or a bad thing, but the fact is that this is the way the world of the ODP is.
The only way to change this is get have more editors who get the Vision of what the ODP is about. It's not an easy one to "get", and most people don't really want to get it, especially when it clashes violently with their own self-interest. If you can get it, then I would love to welcome you to the ranks of ODP editor.