I understand what you are feelling, and the relevant frustrations.
Perhaps it will ease the pain if you simply forget us. The site will be either listed, or it will not be. There is really not a lot you can do about either.
Spend those wonderful energies making sure that the site provides visitors with a lot of useful, unique content, then this year, nor next decade, whenever an ODP editor does visit they can't help by being impressed by what you have built.
At a different level, doing this is also a greatlisting strategy. In the area of directoreis and guides there are two approaches you can take: try to be better than the worst, hope you get in, and then constantly worry about staying in. Or, try to be the best of the best, andhave everyone else chasing you and losing sleep.
Good luck in either event.