The problem, tombobb, is that you are essentially an honest person (or at least you seem to think like one). As such, it is difficult for you to understand what the dark side is all about.
In a perfect world, most editors would opt for a system that:
-- provides immediate and ongoing feedback to people who suggest sites along with a method that allows people to get a real time look at what is happenign with their suggestion.
-- a system of welcoming editors that had little more complexity than the act of electroncially raising one's hand.
Editors aren't inherently opposed to these thing, but, the policies that have been adopted are a result of what dishonest and unethical webmasters and spammers have (in effect) forced upon us.
Potential editors have to be carefully vetted to prevent the pond scum from getting in and pollluting the entiredatabase.
We cannot give better feedback because, while it may or may not prove useful to the legitimate submitter, the spammers use it to measure their progress and success. If we let them know that we found out about attempt 132.4, 132.5 and 132.6 they will resubmit in a nanosecond with attempts number 133.1 through 133.7.
In terms of communciation, no good deed goes unpunished. If we open the lines of communciations we get flooded with additonal spam, if we shut down the lines of communication we are all the things our mothers warned us about.
Nearly every rule that an editor or person suggeting a site has to follow was painfully implemented as a result of hard-fought battles with the dark side.
Case in point, I'm still cleaning up the mess caused by an editor who, somewhere after about 5,000 edits (and with nice wide permissions) decided that just cutting and pasting text from the websites was the best way to grind out a lot of edits and to add a lot of sites. Hardly a week goes by when I don't run into one of his listings that needs to be cleaned up.
I think I outlasted the one real estage agent, somewhere in the U.S. who claimed to have personal offices in the largest 100 cities within a certain state -- and submitted URLs, mirrors, and a bunch of other non-listable sites to each of those cities. The agent even lied about the locality name where his main office was located, insisting it was in a much larger city a few miles away. He hasn't resubmitted in about a year now (knock on wood).
We won't even get into the other tricks that spammers play, lest we give ideas to young impressionalble minds who might be reading this.
And yes, as an editor with nearly 20,000 edits I occasionally get very, very tired. There are days and weeks when I simply do not have the energy to click on the ODP link on by browser. It is simply too draining, and it is supposed to be fun. So I go away for a little while. Work on my own non-commercial websites, check to see if they got listed (darned editors -- why don't they get to work and review MY sites!!!!) and even do some family stuff (actually rented a few movies this past weekend, first time in about 4 months -- wife was convinced I was about to confess to some major misdeed
).
No, tombobb, I think that in our hearts most of us generally agree with you -- is it just that reality is a harsh mistress.
Regards