Yes, you were deluded, and I regret that that happened.
One reason ODP editors like me spend times in forums is to try to help people understand the way the ODP works, so they do not form unreasonable and impossible expectations.
The facts are these:
(1) Most search results, many "mined links", and above all, the vast majority of URL suggestions do NOT get ODP listings. Therefore it is not a good idea to wait for a listing. It may never come; or the site review may come only after your competitor has buried you.
(2) There is no way for editors to find site suggestions that have been waiting "over one year" or "over three years." Therefore, as a practical matter it doesn't matter how long a site has waited. (We have had people suggest sites waiting a long time should be rejected automatically, we've had other people suggest that sites waiting a long time should be reviewed first. We can't do either one, and we wouldn't if we could.)
(3) It really doesn't matter when a site was suggested: the date of a site suggestion is meaningless. Completely meaningless. (I've explained why this is true elsewhere -- read the forums a bit.) Therefore, the amount of time a site suggestion has spent waiting, is also meaningless.
(4) Editors edit categories, not sites. Therefore, if a site is not relevant to the category a volunteer is reviewing, it will wait until someone is editing the relevant category.
(5) Editors tend to work where they can be productive -- after all, BUILDING the directory, not reviewing sites, is the point of the exercis. Therefore: if a category is already massively overcrowded with spam, sites are likely to have to wait much much longer than usual for review (whether or not it has ever been suggested). If a category is massively overcrowded with viciously deceptive spam, sites are likely to have to wait much much longer than usual for review.
(6) The ODP is not a site promotion method. We will do nothing for your site that we would not do for all of your competitors. So if you're thinking the ODP will give you the boost you need to get to the top of the search results, ... it can't, and we wouldn't if we could. We'll boost the other sites just as much. Therefore: you need to take the same responsibility for your own site, whether or not the ODP has listed it or ever will list it.
That should give you an idea what you need to do next (promote your own business) and where you need to be doing it (everywhere except the ODP.)
None of the information I gave is secret. You could have read it in these forums a year ago, and in other forums I contributed to at least five years ago. If an SEO forum is at all polite to informed visitors (and sometimes even if it isn't), it probably has one or more ODP editors who are regular participants.
But we may be missing something, and maybe you can help us out here. Where did you go for information about the ODP, that didn't tell you what I just told you?